Today I would like to share a few of the many fruits of my experience during the year I was a postulant at the Carmelite monastery, and how they have affected me to this day. My time there was such a beautiful experience, and although there are times that I miss it painfully, I truly do love talking about it. Let's look at five of the things I learned there that can be applied to the lay person's life in the world!
1. HOLINESS IS FOUND IN ONE'S DUTIES. Life in itself, dutifully lived out, is sanctifying. We tend to measure our holiness by how much extra we do, and not by how well we are fulfilling what's right in front of us. We yearn for great opportunities for virtue and solemn penances but fail to see the holiness in things as simple as washing the dishes. At the monastery, I really learned to soak in the moment at hand and fully give myself to the fulfillment of it, rather than trying to think up pious things to do. This may seem too gentle, too laid back, but the reality is that our greatest measure of sanctity is how we are fulfilling our state in life with all its accompanying duties, and then from there we can add on more.
2. THE FRUITS OF NO TECHNOLOGY. We did not have a tv, nor were there computers available for common use. The only media we had general access to was a little cd player with a selection of classical and religious music, for use on feast days and Sundays. To be honest, I didn't miss technology, media, and movies at all. And I soon saw that over that year, the withdrawal from all the earthly distractions and noise had heightened my sensitivities. When I did listen to music, it pierced my heart all the deeper. I was quieter in my heart, easily focused on the beauties that the liturgy and the day's prayer had brought me. When I returned home from the monastery, I made a slow return to these things, reluctant to relinquish the quietness of mind and heart that I had had in the cloister. We are so immersed in noise and movement and a constant flood of images - it would do our souls so much good if we could set times to step back from them, and even limit altogether their presence in our lives.
3. THE NOISE OF OUR SURROUNDINGS. On a similar note, I quickly discovered within a few hours of being home how much I now perceived as clutter. Even patterns and colors and all the books on the shelves were overwhelming. This is not to say that color is bad or anything—but I never realized until after a year surrounded by the simplest of décor, how much the home setting can affect you. When you are surrounded by things day to day, you stop noticing little clutter areas, gathered nick knacks, or accumulated home items. Without realizing it, you can slip into "organized disorganization." I cannot encourage you enough to simplify your home. Not in a minimalistic, barren way, but in a way that embraces the beauty of each deliberately chosen item you place in your home. Less is so so much more.
4. YOU CAN GET UP EARLIER THAN YOU THINK. Yes, I say this half in a lighthearted way, and half in earnest. When I was looking at the daily schedule of the monastery before I entered, I was a little dubious that I could get up at 4:45 every. single. day. for the rest of my life. I jokingly insisted to my friends that when referring to my future monastic rising time, they say "quarter to five" instead of "4:45" because it didn't sound so early. But in all seriousness, it was more than doable. Yes, there were days that I didn't want to get out of bed (especially in the winter!). Now I am not saying everyone should get up super early - I am just saying that for us living in the world, getting up a little earlier for prayer, for a head start on the day, for quiet time for reading, is SO beneficial. The brief sacrifice of pulling yourself out of bed is over by the time you are washed up and dressed, and the rest of the day goes by so much better.
5. HOLY LEISURE. As centered on a daily rhythm of prayer and work as our days at the monastery were, there were also short times of quiet leisure in every day, as well as feast days with more rest time and a monthly "free" day dedicated to individual pursuits. We in the world can get so caught up in constantly doing things, in always working on something on our ever growing to do list, and even in making our "leisure time" more depleting than refreshing by overwhelming ourselves with an even higher exposure to noise and commotion, out and about doing activities. While such activities can be fun, they are not the leisure I speak of. I speak of the quiet of moments spent taking a breath, going on a walk and soaking in the beauty of God's creation, or listening to quiet music while browsing art pieces. We need more of these quiet moments of leisure—for our minds as much as our souls. I cannot recommend highly enough setting aside just a little bit of time each day for such occupations of quiet restfulness. And besides this little bit of daily time, also set aside one day a month where all things unessential are let go of, and the soul is allowed to refresh itself in the quiet beauty of holy leisure.
These are five little things I learned in the monastery that can carry over into lay life. Simple little things, but so beneficial! They are all deeply woven into the whole lifestyle of monastic living, and therefore should be valued as key to the spiritual life. So, join me, as we turn our homes and families into little domestic models of monasteries, where souls are daily made closer to the likeness of Christ.
Post edited by A.R. Staggenborg
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